only half the problem is my lack of a clue

way back when, frogboy and i made lists. his is longer than mine. first, he’s got 7 brothers and sisters, who’ve all got assorted associated parties (kids, partners, etc.). second, it’s a whole lot easier, i think, to invite your ex-coworkers to drive 2 hours to see you get married than it is to invite my ex-coworkers to plan 6 months ahead of time to fly across the atlantic and then go gallivanting around a country where they don’t speak your language. so, initial count: frogboy 45, futurefroggie 22.

i still have problems with this. i’m not sure why. part of it i guess is that i’m afraid that i will be completely eclipsed along the way. i mean, whatever we don’t want to be typically french will take extra effort — ceremony? in french, unless we figure out how to do it also in english; food? french, unless we figure out how to do it differently…. see what i’m saying? and i guess i feel like having my guests be outnumbered 2 to 1 may only help the frenchification of it all.

i LOVE living here, that’s not the problem. but there are things that i don’t like about french culture and there are things i don’t like about some traditional french wedding activities (much as there are some things i don’t like about the US — normal, i think).

anyway, the american guests will take a little more work, at least in the planning stages. we’re nearly done creating our save-the-date cards, which will have the address of our wedding website. (as soon as we send them out, i’ll put a link up here.) i spent a lot of time putting little descriptions and photos of all the different accomodation possibilities, so i hope that helps. i’m going to gather flight information and put that up there too (i hope — but no two guests are coming from the same place in the US!).